Blog, For Her, For Him

Getting started

The absolute hardest part of getting this site going is deciding how much and what to share.  Of the few who are aware of my intentions with this website, not one has failed to bring up precautions that I need to take to stay safe.  Wise words indeed but trying to create a persona that is me but not me has been a royal pain in the ass.  The truth is, everyone that knows me also knows I am different (to put it mildly/nicely).  For whatever reason, I just exude *something* that makes people open up to me and tell me their deepest darkest secrets and at some point I get asked a million questions.

THAT hasn’t gotten me into too much trouble as of yet, so why bother hiding behind a screen pretending to be someone/something I’m not.  As a way to cover my ass, how about we all just agree to enjoy the site and not go sociopathic and stalk and/or kill me.  Ok?!  Seems reasonable.

Now, hopefully with that out of the way, I can actually start writing about what we’re all here for.  Sex.  Confidence.  Kink.  Exploration and experimentation.  Sounds like a lot more fun eh?

I’m still not exactly sure where to start but I’m pretty good at winging it.  Truth is, the topics are endless.  I’m not exactly sure where to start because everyone has a different issue or problem that may be huge to them, but may be not be a problem for the next person.  A lifetime of experiences and listening to others views on sex takes a toll on everyone which results in inhibitions varying greatly.

Luckily, somewhere along the way of my own sexual brainwashing I learned what a crock of shit it was and just stopped taking it in.  I make my own decisions about it now and completely ignore (usually with an eye-roll) anyone who starts preaching what and how sex should be.  I’ve talked to so many people about their sex lives that only 1 things remains constant….EVERYONE has something that they want and desire but are too afraid to go after it because “omg, that makes me a pervert.”  Fuck that.  If what you want doesn’t hurt or ruin someone else’s life…why SHOULDN’T you give yourself the opportunity to try it?  Why NOT find a partner who desires the same thing?!  Trust me…they are out there.

The happiest people I know are ones that go after what they want.  They actively seek out their desires and surround themselves with people who do the same.  No, this doesn’t mean you need to go out and tell everyone about your sex life, but it makes sense that if you’re trying to find someone to share your life with, its a GREAT idea to find out if you’re sexually compatible or not.  I don’t care what anyone else thinks or says, when I was looking for a long term partner, sex came up before almost anything else.  Living a life where you constantly desire something you NEVER get seems completely insane to me.  If a great sex life is important to you…work towards making it happen.  Don’t waste your time on someone who thinks sex is something reserved for your birthday present once a year.

I’m currently working on some checklists to help in this area.  They will be available as print outs very shortly.  They’ve been a lot of fun to put together 😉

~Bryony – the Dirty Deviant